It’s been far too long since my last blog post. I can blame a whole host of things, including the holidays. Once November hits, it seems like I can barely catch my breath and it’s Christmas. Now that the holidays are over, I don’t feel like I’m drowning in all of the extras that I add to our life. But, the fact is, I just didn’t make a blog post a priority. Mathman and I had dates, but they were date nights out. Nothing to write home about!
Truthfully, I have struggled with what to write about for my next post. Have you ever done the New Year’s resolution where you come up with a word for the year? I’ve never done it before. But as the days have started passing, God keeps bringing a word to my mind regarding Mathman and our marriage. It is “intentional.” Therefore, I have decided I’m going to try and keep this word in the forefront of my mind and marriage this year. I’d like to strive to be more intentional in the things I do with and for Mathman.
Many days I feel like I’m just trying to survive. Between planning and executing home school lessons, keeping my house functional, caring for the kids, etc, etc, etc, life gets overwhelming. And when it comes to getting things done, I get them done as efficiently and quickly as I can. Quite frankly, that can be how I do things for Mathman. I get them done. Check it off my list. Made his lunch, check. Served the family dinner, check. Prayed with Mathman, check. Clearly the list could go on. Making Mathman’s lunch is something I have done to serve him. He’s completely capable of doing it himself. I’ve asked to do it and have said I want to do it to serve him. It’s my little way of saying, “I love you and appreciate you.” I used to write him notes in his lunch. Not so much anymore. I’ve lost my intentionality. I used to make his lunch intentionally. Now, it’s another thing to check off. Do you have something like that in your life or marriage? Some way you strived to serve your spouse and now you feel like it is something you just need to get done? I’d encourage you to go back to the heart of it and start being intentional about it again.
For me, I want to strive to be intentional in three ways with Mathman.
First, I want to be intentional with our date-night-in activities again. It is so much easier for me to write a date night out on the calendar and have a grandparent secured to babysit than it is for me to write date-night-in on the calendar. Because I’ll change it. I’ll be too tired and fill my day with too much so that when it comes to the evening, I’m ready to collapse, not date. I want to be intentional to write dates on the calendar, clear my day, make sure less is on my plate, and my energy is FULL for Mathman at the end of the day for our date night in. I-N-T-E-N-T-I-O-N-A-L dates.
Second, I want to be intentional in serving him. I serve him a lot during the day, simply because I serve our entire family in many of the things I do day in and day out. I want to seek out ways to serve that serve just him. I want to put thought into what I’m doing and stop going through the motions of completing. I-N-T-E-N-T-I-O-N-A-L service.
Thirdly, I want to be intentional in praying for him. I can so easily get in the habit of praying the same things. I don’t have a really great time I set aside for intentional prayer, other than when Mathman and I pray together each night. My prayers are more sporadic and throughout my day. I want to set a daily time to pray for Mathman. I want to move beyond just praying for his protection and favor at work, I want to pray for his growth with the Lord, for his patience and wisdom as a dad and as the leader of our home. I-N-T-E-N-T-I-O-N-A-L prayer.
Is there an area in your marriage you can work to become more intentional this year? I was intentional in only choosing three ways to be more intentional. If I chose more, I’d be sure to fail and just give up. I want to be successful and make intentionality a habit of mine. To stop and think about why I’m doing what I’m doing. To have more purpose in what I do, to create purpose in what I’m doing.
Ephesians 5:15-16, “Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil.”
Side note: I made this “I love you because” frame as a way to be intentional in telling Mathman reasons I love him!